Yesterday on the Steve Harvey Morning Show, a man asked Steve Harvey, “What should I do about finding out if I am the father of an unborn child with a married woman?” Steve proceeded to tell him that there is no future or anything good that can come out of this situation, and to walk away from the situation. As the man kept talking, I was shaking my head and thinking “how did this man get himself in a situation like this to begin with?” He was so blinded spiritually by this situation that he couldn’t see the consequences of possibly losing his own life, by pressing the matter with the woman and her husband.

Many times people choose blessings or curses for their lives by making simple choices. Adultery has the potential of destroying one’s wealth, body, soul, and reputation. Forgiveness is possible (1Cor 6:9-11), but many affects of adultery can sometimes continue throughout someone’s life. No matter how appealing a person makes him or herself, it is never okay to  even consider a married person for a romantic relationship.

For this reason, I wanted to re-post one of OLM’s Relationship Thursday articles titled, “Are You Married, But Living Single?” Please copy & paste the following link into your browser to view the article:

* What are your thoughts on how people can safeguard their marriages from adultery? How can single people stay away from the trick on getting caught up in affairs like this?

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                                      By Hasani Pettiford

Hasani Pettiford

The tenth habit of successful people is valuing relationships. Someone once said that 90% of your success or failure is determined by who you choose as a spouse. The same principle can easily be applied to all personal and business relationships. People have the power of doing one of four things in your life: add, multiply, subtract and divide. Successful people only associate with people who add and multiply blessings of opportunity to their lives.

Successful people are very discriminative with whom they allow in their immediate surroundings. Unsuccessful people, on the other hand, hold no standard for their personal and business relationships. Many people reside in a place of mediocrity because of wrong associations. There are people who feel it is their responsibility to convince you of why something can’t be accomplished. Often, those closest to you feel that they have a special calling on their lives to try to talk you out of everything you try to do.

Simply put, your relationships will either enhance your vision or choke your dream. Proverbs 13:20 states, “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.” Your ability to form meaningful personal and business relationships with positive people will be critical to your success and achievement. All it takes is one person to open up a door for you that will change your life forever.

Successful people have a knack for continuously networking and developing mutually beneficial relationships with people, not just contacts. Successful people network to gain access to resources. They realize the more people they know, the more access to resources they have. Developing relationships opens doors to resources, money and opportunity. These are often opportunities that set people up for success. An old proverb in business is: “If you want to be prosperous for a year, grow grain. If you want to be prosperous for ten years, grow trees. If you want to be prosperous for a lifetime, grow people.”

Make a list of all the people you know and identify key people in your life. Develop a plan to establish a higher quality relationship with them. Determine to meet as many people as you can that can assist you in your journey. Understand, the key to networking is being a go-giver as well as a go-getter. Give of yourself first. Offer any help or assistance that may be needed. Eventually, the tides will turn. The more you give of yourself with no expectation of return, the more that will come back to you from the most unexpected sources. Networking works when you understand that there is very little that you can do or have in life without working with other people.

As an award-winning author and speaker, Hasani Pettiford has an appeal that transcends barriers of age, culture and occupation. For over a decade Mr. Pettiford has been a recognized authority on human sexuality, interpersonal relationships and personal growth and development. Hasani has directly impacted the lives of many nationwide with his best-selling books and speaking engagements. Much of Pettiford’s work has been featured in major media outlets, including national publications, television and radio programs.

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Tanisha Hopson

beautiful-living-room-ideas-4 = wholeness starts at home

When I was growing up, if someone was acting out foolishly in the streets– the more “seasoned women” in my community would say, “Hhhhmm, that person has no home training”… The term “home training” implies that a person has manners, respect for others and displays acceptable social etiquette. However, I would go a little further and say that if a person is acting out of character or in a foolish manner, he or she might not have gotten what he/she needs at home and could be broken in spirit.

My grandmother (like many wise old school grandmothers) taught me that home is where the heart is. She was always sure to share that your home should always be a place of healing, restoration, nurturing, and rest for your soul. It should be clean, well swept, pleasant smelling and in order – much like your spirit. Home should be the place where God can freely speak to your heart in preparation for whatever the day has in store for you. If you are constantly getting the proper spiritual vitamins from home, your soul will reflect a confident, whole individual who will have a Word from the Lord and smile to brighten someone’s day.

Here is a special Motivational Monday nugget from Isaiah 26:3: “You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You.”

If we keep our priorities straight spiritually, mentally and physically – everything else cooperates with us. Let’s get back to the basics of putting first things first in our relationship with God, family and home. Remove the clutter of unnecessary material things, unresolved relationships and unforgiveness. If the world is going to be a better place, it starts with you. As you head out to take on the world today – remember that wholeness starts at home. You have the power to make it an awesome place!

My wholeness confession for today: “I have peace, power, love and a calm and well-balanced mind because I trust God. I don’t worry about anything, instead, I pray about everything and God blesses me by giving me His peace. I am well equipped to handle any problem that comes my way, because God is with me and my soul is in perfect peace.”

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Successful People Walk in Wisdom!

By Tanisha Hopson

Every move you make, every step you take, whether big or small, is significant. As the Editor of a thriving magazine, I am often in a position to make important decisions quickly in a short period of time. Most of the decisions that I need to make are pretty obvious…However, when I recently felt like I didn’t know what to do in one instance (because of a funny feeling I was having); I began to inquire of the Lord concerning the matter. At first, I heard absolutely nothing at all from God. So, I decided to wait on Him before making my decision. Finally, by the next morning, the Holy Spirit impressed upon my heart to simply “use wisdom”.

Proverbs 4: 10- 14 says, “Listen, my son, accept what I say, and the years of your life will be many. I instruct you in the way of wisdom and lead you along straight paths. When you walk, your steps will not be hampered; when you run, you will not stumble. Hold on to instruction, do not let it go; guard it well, for it is your life.”

We must look at things circumspectly before making choices, because evil is not often displayed in plain sight. It is often hidden in the details that we are not privy to seeing immediately. This is the world we are living in. Yet God, in His infinite wisdom gives us opportunities to seek Him and walk in victory! He gave us the opportunity to accept Jesus Christ as the Lord of our lives, the Holy Spirit to teach us in all things, discernment to let us know when something isn’t quite right, and a brain.

After applying wisdom to my situation and getting the much needed peace in my heart; the choice that I made kept me from danger, helped me to maximize on my time, and worked out wonderfully for every person involved.

I encourage you today to walk circumspectly in all that you do and keep God’s Word and prayer at the epicenter of your world. And, always remember, successful people walk in wisdom!

Reflection Scripture:
Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~ Ephesians 5: 15-21

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By Tanisha Hopson

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”. ~ Reinhold Niebuhr

Some people are easy to love; while others are just tolerable. Some people really do talk too much without thinking; while others stay quiet and use wisdom before speaking. Some people have earned the reputation of being the life of any party; while others are quiet by nature and enjoy spending time by themselves. Some are dependable; while others are extremely unreliable. Some people are gossip bearers; while others try their best to mind their own business.

Regardless of the case, whether we like it or not; we are all called to love our neighbors as ourselves. The sooner we all learn to accept people for who they are and where they are – we will see major improvements in our lives and relationships.

When we have no power to change situations, we must choose to “accept” and pray for improvements regarding circumstances. One nugget that could help you out tremendously today is: “You cannot change anyone but yourself, so stop tripping and enjoy the journey.” You can only change your perspective, your way of thinking, and what you will or will not do. End of story. So, take the pressure off yourself, other people and put God back in charge!

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