By Hasani Pettiford
The tenth habit of successful people is valuing relationships. Someone once said that 90% of your success or failure is determined by who you choose as a spouse. The same principle can easily be applied to all personal and business relationships. People have the power of doing one of four things in your life: add, multiply, subtract and divide. Successful people only associate with people who add and multiply blessings of opportunity to their lives.
Successful people are very discriminative with whom they allow in their immediate surroundings. Unsuccessful people, on the other hand, hold no standard for their personal and business relationships. Many people reside in a place of mediocrity because of wrong associations. There are people who feel it is their responsibility to convince you of why something can’t be accomplished. Often, those closest to you feel that they have a special calling on their lives to try to talk you out of everything you try to do.
Simply put, your relationships will either enhance your vision or choke your dream. Proverbs 13:20 states, “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.” Your ability to form meaningful personal and business relationships with positive people will be critical to your success and achievement. All it takes is one person to open up a door for you that will change your life forever.
Successful people have a knack for continuously networking and developing mutually beneficial relationships with people, not just contacts. Successful people network to gain access to resources. They realize the more people they know, the more access to resources they have. Developing relationships opens doors to resources, money and opportunity. These are often opportunities that set people up for success. An old proverb in business is: “If you want to be prosperous for a year, grow grain. If you want to be prosperous for ten years, grow trees. If you want to be prosperous for a lifetime, grow people.”
Make a list of all the people you know and identify key people in your life. Develop a plan to establish a higher quality relationship with them. Determine to meet as many people as you can that can assist you in your journey. Understand, the key to networking is being a go-giver as well as a go-getter. Give of yourself first. Offer any help or assistance that may be needed. Eventually, the tides will turn. The more you give of yourself with no expectation of return, the more that will come back to you from the most unexpected sources. Networking works when you understand that there is very little that you can do or have in life without working with other people.
As an award-winning author and speaker, Hasani Pettiford has an appeal that transcends barriers of age, culture and occupation. For over a decade Mr. Pettiford has been a recognized authority on human sexuality, interpersonal relationships and personal growth and development. Hasani has directly impacted the lives of many nationwide with his best-selling books and speaking engagements. Much of Pettiford’s work has been featured in major media outlets, including national publications, television and radio programs.
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