By Tanisha Hopson
Relationships can take you to the greatest heights of your life or bring you down to nothing. The 6pm news is filled with examples of how this works every evening. As you examine the happenings of your environment today, ask yourself: who is adding value to my life? If you intend to go where God has purposed for you to go, this question is a key factor to unlocking your greatest potential.
Proverbs 13:20 says,” He that walketh with wise men shall be wise; but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.” I can name countless times in my life where my friends have helped to steer me away from trouble which could have changed the course of my life. I was truly blessed because they could see further than I could at the time. I thank God for these people because they continue to encourage me to do and be better person.
Your “walk” is your life’s journey. Who have you allowed to walk with you? Are you benefiting from the people closest to you? Who is feeding your soul and spirit? Are these people constantly withdrawing from you or depositing something positive into your life? If you are walking along your journey and find yourself slipping backwards from God’s best for you, you should stop what you are doing right now and examine who is on your team.
Take inventory of who is in your circle of “friends”. Is there a mutual exchange of benefits in these relationships? Are these people draining you or enhancing your life with goodness, words of encouragement, good/godly advice, etc.? Are these people assigned to help you become your greatest self? Ask God to bring people into your life that will help you to continually produce good fruit in your life. If your life is not being enhanced by your circle of “friends”; re-evaluate the relationships and take appropriate action in love.
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Yesterday on the Steve Harvey Morning Show, a man asked Steve Harvey, “What should I do about finding out if I am the father of an unborn child with a married woman?” Steve proceeded to tell him that there is no future or anything good that can come out of this situation, and to walk away from the situation. As the man kept talking, I was shaking my head and thinking “how did this man get himself in a situation like this to begin with?” He was so blinded spiritually by this situation that he couldn’t see the consequences of possibly losing his own life, by pressing the matter with the woman and her husband.
Many times people choose blessings or curses for their lives by making simple choices. Adultery has the potential of destroying one’s wealth, body, soul, and reputation. Forgiveness is possible (1Cor 6:9-11), but many affects of adultery can sometimes continue throughout someone’s life. No matter how appealing a person makes him or herself, it is never okay to even consider a married person for a romantic relationship.
For this reason, I wanted to re-post one of OLM’s Relationship Thursday articles titled, “Are You Married, But Living Single?” Please copy & paste the following link into your browser to view the article: http://eepurl.com/USjxf
* What are your thoughts on how people can safeguard their marriages from adultery? How can single people stay away from the trick on getting caught up in affairs like this?
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By Hasani Pettiford
The tenth habit of successful people is valuing relationships. Someone once said that 90% of your success or failure is determined by who you choose as a spouse. The same principle can easily be applied to all personal and business relationships. People have the power of doing one of four things in your life: add, multiply, subtract and divide. Successful people only associate with people who add and multiply blessings of opportunity to their lives.
Successful people are very discriminative with whom they allow in their immediate surroundings. Unsuccessful people, on the other hand, hold no standard for their personal and business relationships. Many people reside in a place of mediocrity because of wrong associations. There are people who feel it is their responsibility to convince you of why something can’t be accomplished. Often, those closest to you feel that they have a special calling on their lives to try to talk you out of everything you try to do.
Simply put, your relationships will either enhance your vision or choke your dream. Proverbs 13:20 states, “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.” Your ability to form meaningful personal and business relationships with positive people will be critical to your success and achievement. All it takes is one person to open up a door for you that will change your life forever.
Successful people have a knack for continuously networking and developing mutually beneficial relationships with people, not just contacts. Successful people network to gain access to resources. They realize the more people they know, the more access to resources they have. Developing relationships opens doors to resources, money and opportunity. These are often opportunities that set people up for success. An old proverb in business is: “If you want to be prosperous for a year, grow grain. If you want to be prosperous for ten years, grow trees. If you want to be prosperous for a lifetime, grow people.”
Make a list of all the people you know and identify key people in your life. Develop a plan to establish a higher quality relationship with them. Determine to meet as many people as you can that can assist you in your journey. Understand, the key to networking is being a go-giver as well as a go-getter. Give of yourself first. Offer any help or assistance that may be needed. Eventually, the tides will turn. The more you give of yourself with no expectation of return, the more that will come back to you from the most unexpected sources. Networking works when you understand that there is very little that you can do or have in life without working with other people.
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By Tanisha Hopson
Some people are easy to love; while others are just tolerable. Some people really do talk too much without thinking; while others stay quiet and use wisdom before speaking. Some people have earned the reputation of being the life of any party; while others are quiet by nature and enjoy spending time by themselves. Some are dependable; while others are extremely unreliable. Some people are gossip bearers; while others try their best to mind their own business.
Regardless of the case, whether we like it or not; we are all called to love our neighbors as ourselves. The sooner we all learn to accept people for who they are and where they are – we will see major improvements in our lives and relationships.
When we have no power to change situations, we must choose to “accept” and pray for improvements regarding circumstances. One nugget that could help you out tremendously today is: “You cannot change anyone but yourself, so stop tripping and enjoy the journey.” You can only change your perspective, your way of thinking, and what you will or will not do. End of story. So, take the pressure off yourself, other people and put God back in charge!